8.14.2026

Steve Dale interview: Ask the Dog

I did an interview with Steve Dale, who is a WGN Radio host, pet journalist, and certified animal behavior consultant. His book, Ask the Dog, is about how to approach a dog we don’t know.

Why did you write the book?

Dog-bite numbers are on the rise, and I wanted to do something about that. One thing that, to my knowledge, really hadn’t been addressed in a book was paying attention to what the dog is saying, not what we think the dog is saying.

Dogs are communicating with us all the time. Even the way a dog lies beside you or behaves around you is communication. In our homes, with our own dogs, and outdoors with dogs we don’t know, they’re always telling us things. We often don’t pay attention. We pick up a dog because we want to pet it, or because we feel it’s our right, without noticing that the dog may be telling us, “Not right now.”

From the dog’s perspective, the dog is trying to tell us something. Dogs can’t talk, but they are communicating. Kids especially need to be taught to recognize those signals. If we can do a better job of understanding what dogs are telling us, I suggest dog-bite numbers will decline.

Why is the book called Ask the Dog?

Imagine you’re walking down the street and see a dog you don’t know. What do you do if you want to pet that dog? We’ve been taught that the first thing we should do is ask the person with the dog, “Can I pet your dog?” That’s still appropriate. But we also need to ask the dog.

I tell a story about walking our dog and encountering another dog that was sniffing the grass. The dog’s owner actually encouraged me to pet the dog. But when I looked at the dog, it was pulling toward the other end of the leash and wasn’t making any attempt to interact with me.

I said no. Maybe the dog was hungry and wanted to go home. Maybe it didn’t like interacting with strangers. Maybe it wasn’t feeling well. I don’t know. But the dog was clearly telling me something, and I needed to pay attention.

What is the book about?

The book follows a little girl named Morgan as she walks through a park with her mother. In a city like Chicago, or in any major metropolitan area, you’re likely to encounter lots of dogs—different sizes, colors, shapes and, importantly, different dispositions.

The question is: How do you read what the dog is saying? Sometimes the person may say, “Go ahead and pet my dog,” while the dog is saying, for whatever reason, “Not right now.”

Even with our own dogs, we often don’t recognize that. I know canine signaling and understand what dogs are communicating through their behavior. The book is an attempt to explain that in a way that children can understand.

The book has received some impressive endorsements.

Yes. Although Dr. Jane Goodall never got to see the book, I was told that she was willing to give it a blurb because she knew me and understood the premise.

The American Veterinary Medical Association also gave the book a blurb. To my knowledge, they had never done that before for a book. They have to decide how they draw the line and determine which books they endorse, so I was very honored that they did it for me.

Dr. Patricia McConnell, a revered veterinary behaviorist in Wisconsin, wrote the foreword. It’s only three sentences, but it’s beautiful. And Dr. Marty Becker, who I consider one of the most influential veterinarians in veterinary medicine, also gave me a blurb.

Those endorsements speak well, I hope, of the book and the message in it. I don’t believe this particular idea has really been done before.

What do you hope Ask the Dog accomplishes?

What I want to do is get the word out about the book any way I can, because I believe it can make a difference, particularly for kids. Kids account for a large percentage of dog bites. And even if someone says, “I don’t have a dog, and I don’t care about dogs,” this still affects them.

As dog-bite numbers go up, there are consequences beyond the person who is bitten. There are insurance implications, and dogs could potentially lose some of the freedoms they’ve gained in recent years, such as going to restaurants, baseball games, local stores and other places.

There is also the trauma experienced by the person who is bitten, and the effect on the dog and the human-animal bond. Dogs rarely get up in the morning thinking, “I’m going to bite someone today.” Often, they’re communicating something that we don’t notice. A dog might develop an ear infection, for example, and the family may not recognize that the dog is saying, “Don’t touch me there.”

The dog may not growl. The signaling can be subtle. Then the dog bites, and the human-animal bond is fractured. That doesn’t have to happen. It’s preventable.

What’s one of the biggest misconceptions about approaching a dog?

We’ve all been taught to put out our hand or fist in a dog’s face so the dog can smell us. I don’t understand that. It doesn’t make any sense.

If I see you and you put your fist in my face, that’s kind of rude. And it’s kind of the same for dogs. More importantly, if the dog is predisposed to bite, you’re putting your hand right in front of its face. We don’t need to do that. If you’re standing five feet away from a dog, or four feet or three feet, the dog can smell you. You don’t need to put your fist in its face.

Instead, wait for the dog to come to you. If the dog is coming toward you with its hackles up, growling and snarling, that’s obviously a very different situation. But if the dog comes toward you with its rear end up, its tail going back and forth, or rolls over or leans on you, the dog may be saying, “I want you to pet me.”

Professionals will tell you the same thing: wait for the dog to come to you.

What about hugging dogs?

That’s another problem. Dogs don’t naturally like to be hugged. They may learn to tolerate it, or they may learn that being hugged comes with something they value: attention from us. But they’re not born wanting to be hugged.

People understand what a hug means. It’s something we use to say hello or to comfort somebody. Other primates understand it, too. Dogs aren’t primates. Hugging a dog can be asking for trouble, particularly with a dog you don’t know.

Adults don’t often walk up to an unfamiliar dog and hug it. Kids do it all the time. And that’s another reason this book is important.

8.10.2026

Cool pic of cakes

I suggested that one of my students do a presentation about her cake-making endeavors. She's been baking unique cakes for over 10 years. It started for a friend, then that friend told another, and so on and so on. She spoke English as she showed several pictures of her beautiful cakes. This is a collage that she put together of her cakes, but it's just a tiny fraction of her vast creative output.

cakes

8.03.2026

English expression

One of my ESL students created this video. When I met him at the beginning of this year, he couldn't really understand nor speak English very well. Now he's really improved because he spends a lot of time studying English on his own. He does several things every day to learn English. This is what passion and motivation look like, and I could definitely learn from his example (though I'm juggling a handful of languages simultaneously, so it's a kind of diluted pursuit 😅).

7.27.2026

Maybe too much

I was really excited to start studying three languages simultaneously, but it's been sort of overwhelming. I study languages every day, but it's casual and happens randomly because I've been translating posts on X/Twitter, which is super-fun and challenging. Taking a class requires finishing homework and studying the concepts that we've learned, because it's not enough to just go to class once a week, and it would be a super-human task to immediately understand everything they tell us. My schedule overall is varied because I work four gigs and take three classes and create content, but I've been feeling sort of scattered.

This evening is the last German class, and then I'll be doing just two language classes: Italian and French. Italian is online and French is in-person. 

I've been studying French at the excellent Alliance Française Chicago for a couple of years. I only started taking classes there because I live nearby and someone recommended it. I'd passed by it for several years but didn't think it would be so great. And I've been studying French on my own and took a couple of online classes because I'd like to go to France one day. Basically, I signed up because I can walk there, and since I had acquired extra time, I wanted to study languages more. Now that I've taken different classes at different places, it is very clear that Alliance Française has the best teachers and a pleasant environment. I feel like I'm stepping into another culture, and all the instructors are totally professional, educated, and nice.

I should write another post about work-life balance because ever since I slowed down a couple of years ago and returned to doing more of what I want, life has been way better.

7.07.2026

Creativity can be control

After creating a lot of content for other people and places, and just working to make others shine, I broke away from such a hustle and have had more time to do my own thing. And I've realized that always following others' wishes can lead to a feeling of a lack of control. 

But life doesn't have to totally be all that. Creating something that comes from within is very satisfying, and no one can take that away or dictate what to do. We often have to follow what others say or conform to the group, but creating is just about what we want to express, and doing that gives us control.

We can post something online and may never get feedback, but at least it's what we've created. The problem is when it enters the marketplace and has to be assessed. Then the power isn't only ours anymore. The public has control, and a negative or apathetic response can mean failure, and a sense of hopelessness. But if we're just doing something that is totally unique to us, from us, we are the control; we don't need externals. 

Of course, if we get success, that's fantastic because it is validation of our efforts. But many times we don't get approval or attention, so just spending time in that independent slot within our lives is enough to break us free from dulling external effects.

I find it hard to always be motivated, but when I think about the power of creating, that can be the motivation, because "real artists ship."

p.s. the e-book version of my debut novel is still at Amazon, and the price for the print version has been reduced: buy at the Eckhartz Press site.

7.01.2026

I will soon be studying three languages simultaneously

The language-learning lifestyle is continuing, and this month I will be taking three different language classes. I've been studying French for a couple years at the excellent Alliance Française, started studying Italian at the beginning of this year, and will be taking a German grammar class.

I'm going to have a lot of homework, though of course it won't be as rigorous as credit homework. Homework in an adult class at a language school can take a couple of hours. And that's in addition to ingesting the language in other ways; it's not enough to just do the homework, because it's just a tiny sliver of what's out there. Now I'll be doing it with three languages at the same time.

The in-person German classes are not near my place, and I don't want to commute late at night. I thought I'd give up trying to find something that fits, then I saw an A2 grammar refresh course at a convenient time. Since I reached A2 at GLS in Berlin, I've wanted to advance but haven't been able to find classes that fit my schedule. But there's a more urgent need because I'm going to Germany in October, and I need to get back to the level I achieved when I was there. I at least have to know how to put a decent sentence together again.

I'm continuing French because the teachers at Alliance Chicago are highly trained, organized, and caring. I've also considered French a friend for several years as I've treated it like a fun pursuit. Now I want to be able to know enough to travel there; I don't want to stick to just the tourist areas. 

If I were rich, I'd amp up the hours and take credit courses to be able to speak and write well. But I'm not rich, so I'm doing what I can, which is important because we all should leave space for enjoyable endeavors. 

6.20.2026

Dead links

I was going through my old drafts and found this one from 2010:
Someone from Book drum noticed that I listed The Great Gatsby as one of my favorite books in my profile (read the entire book online here), and they suggested that I look at its multimedia profile over there. It seems like a very interesting site that makes books multi-dimensional, so if you're into books and want to express your love for them in various ways, feel free to join or just check out what's already there.

I ended up doing a post about it, so I don't know why it was in my drafts as well. What's cool is that editor Hector Macdonald left a comment on that post, and I finally thanked him 16 years later 😅

Back then, orgs and authors would ask me to check out what they were doing. I guess they did research and considered my blog popular enough to warrant such communication with moi. Now social media takes care of mentions and promotions, and I'm never hit up. Well, that's not totally true because I get respect for my Radiogirl podcast, and people still contact me or recommend people to me. But in terms of my blog, attention has shifted. But it doesn't mean I'll stop blogging; after all, I've managed to toil in obscurity here for over 20 years 😅

Also back in the day, we used to share our discoveries on our blogs because there was no social media to share on ["on which to share" for the dangling preposition opponents]. Now it's way easier to share on socials; no need to fire up the blog for a brief mention.

I looked for Book Drum, but it stopped operations in 2018. Sorry it didn't last. Good luck Hector!

p.s. the e-book version of my debut novel is still at Amazon, and the price for the print version has been reduced: buy at the Eckhartz Press site.