I was talking to someone who still works in a toxic workplace, and I've talked to other people who've left such places. If you feel awful even though you do a good job, read the book The As$hole Survival Guide for tips. Basically, you shouldn't work in toxic workplaces, but if you love what you do and want to stay, or if you have to stay for financial reasons, the book has tips. But expert Robert Sutton still says to leave because it will hurt and worsen you.
This is what a healthy workplace is like:
Your questions are answered and you can get help if needed. You're positively recognized for the good work that you do. You are spoken to respectfully. No one is going behind your back to ruin your reputation, and there are no Mean Girl cliques (that can also include guys). No one yells at you, makes fun of you, belittles you, lies about you, or puts things in your way to trip you up. You are paid fairly. You only have to focus on the challenges of your job, not sharks. You feel good when you leave and can easily enter the other part of your life. You see a future and feel good about the present.
This is what a toxic place is like:
People make fun of you for caring about your job, caring about details, caring about ethics, being responsive, being passionate, being intellectually curious, expressing concern. People yell at you every day and management says "that's how they are." People favor others while ostracizing you. You don't get paid what you should, while new hires with not much experience get paid more. Laziness is overlooked and/or rewarded. You are not judged on the content of your character or the quality of your work. You have to focus on getting your work done, plus navigate the harmful environment, so you're always stressed. You're belittled, dismissed, told to lie, told to forget, told what you saw is not actually what you saw. Competency is punished and integrity is mocked. Everyone complains about every little thing, even if they're paid well. People "work at home" and aren't monitored or held accountable. No one trusts anyone, and there's an air of paranoia and anger. People get ahead based on how they look, even if they're lazy, liars, incompetent, or inexperienced.
In education, if a student lies about you and management believes the student and doesn't care about your side of the story, you're in a toxic school. If a principal tells you to change your grading curve so that a percentage of students will pass, or you're supposed to pass students who actually failed, it won't get any better; find another school. Same goes for a school that makes you give students answers to tests. If a school doesn't respect you as a teacher and forces you to comply to their corruption, you will suffer. Take care of yourself; find a school that deserves you and doesn't lie.
In business, if people come in late, leave early, do outside work on company time, goof off, and all of that is recorded via video cameras and punch-in software, but you get in trouble and they don't, it's a toxic company. Toxic workplaces can use that tech against you if they don't like you; they can show you the data to build a case against you.
No wonder people want to "work at home." They can work wherever they want and to the extent they want, and not be held to the same standards as those who have to physically show up. They can even use a VPN to hide where they really are, and simultaneously work at another job, hobby, shopping, gaming.
I currently do not work in toxic places. If you do and always feel horrible, get a plan and get out. (I'll keep updating this post as I continue to talk to people.)
